Sunday, May 9, 2010

smitten

A love relationship is where 2 individual comes together developing affection and care towards one another thus recognising themselves as a couple and being in loved..

Personally, i think that love is one wacky feeling that may bring one up to seventh heaven or down to 18th hell (a cantonese saying)... It is in fact a very complicated feeling one can develop when he or she is in love, and things may even go out of hand and make one does something one has never imagined one can do in life...

I was told by a friend of mine that there are basically four stages of feeling a couple can have when they both are recognised to be in a relationship...

Codependent  ->  Counterdependent  ->  Independent  ->  Interdependent

It all starts off when both the individuals are so in love with one another that they codepend and all the lovey dovey thingy comes out aka love letter, 20 phone calls a day + 30 sms-es and all that sorts... later on, they get familiarise with one another's existance and counter depend with the other half... they are still in love, but less of the sms-es and calls, but still very much want the other party to be around... personally i think the 1st stage (codependent) last for up to 3 months or so, and then followed by the 2nd stage(counterdependent)..

at the end of 2nd stage, i personally think that the younger couples will start to develop a sense of restriction towards one another, thus a lot of break up happens at this stage... i personally think that the transit of a relationship from the 2nd stage to the 3rd stage is the hardest, as one or more of the party in the relationship is trying to balance up his or her love life with the social life... some may find it hard to accept the fact that they will have to make the best of both worlds and keep their friends and lover happy... thus i would say, more of the couple would end their relationship at the transition point or not too long at the independent stage of a relationship....

for those who thinks that nothing has changed (and the same goes to the the other party), they may find themselves to be in one of the 'Happily Ever After' part of their relationship, with even more arguments in their life, but as well even more affection towards the other party... it is indeed a big leap in a recognised relationship when both are able to be in the I LOVE YOU situation after 10 years of seeing and being with each other...

i dont know how many stages of relationship that i can survive, but i do hope that i will be able to survive through all these, and to live to tell the story...

1 comment:

carpe diem said...

Ini Must be speakin from experience la :)