Monday, January 10, 2011

think it over



as i was in the car listening to the radio this morning, the question of 'How long should a cooling period be after a break up before starting a new relationship comes in' had me thinking for quite a bit...

according to the DJ, a good way of getting the math around it is basically 1/2 of the period of you being attached to your partner(currently ex)... i dont know but i kinda find it a bit not right in that sense but i reckon that at or about 2 months would be a great period to get things settled, and back to the real world and face the future...

you see, i had this agreement with my ex that if any of us would request for a break-up or to end the relationship, we would give each other at least 3 months to think and to see if the decision made for a break up would be wise... i personally think that it would be a great way to ask yourself how much your actually love that someone and to decide if the decision made for a break up was a good one...

what do you think??

p/s. im not a love guru or even close to one, and i've broken up with my lover several months ago, but i think that the 3 months thing was a good cool down/ thinking period..

6 comments:

Simon said...

management style, sound & practical

goAlona! said...

I think it's not the best decision ever. It means You will be attached to a person for 3 more month and if she left and if you still have feelings and she doesn't then it just gives you a hope that she might be back. I say "cut it", if another person comes back in your life and you are single and free, and if you decide to give it one more chance that sounds way better and healthier.
P.S. That DJ definitely was wrong or was just thinking about short term relationships. About the ex, just let it go

Matt.Tey said...

Maybe the DJ didn't mean to use the time just to wait for your ex to come back, but to mentally prepare yourself for the next relationship.

Like if you have been with someone for 4 years, you'll need time to get over with the emotions, to start a new lifestyle without the one you'had spent 4 years with, to get your ex out of your head so that you won't bring any feeling forward to the next guy;

then you're good to go!


so I'll say, hmm... maybe the DJ is right!

LearningByReading said...

This is the classic question for anyone who is going through the misery of separating from a spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend.
I can remember my father saying that there are plenty of fish in the sea.
I always thought that was so callous of him, but it turned out to work ok for me just to move on and not dwell.
thanks for broaching the topic!

Ign@tius said...

thanks for your comments... i guess there isn't any specific time for that...

the key is to just pick yourself up after that period and move on...

LearningByReading said...

Right, and the problem I had was figuring out when the period was over :)